Saturday, 8 June 2019

Say NO to Jeans this Summer!

Are you also dying this summer due to the scorching heat of the sun or are you also uncomfortable wearing jeans because they're just too tight to wear daily for the entire day? 


Hello ladies,
Summer is already at its peak and we have done nothing wrong that we have to wear those tight jeans all day long. So here's my version of the loose ill fitted clothes that you can wear for the next few months and still look stylish. Trust me I am on a say no to jeans spree this summer and I can't wait to share my comfort stories of looking stylish. So, here are the five basics that you need to have to kill this heat.

1. Plain White top or shirt: All these bloggers are not wrong when they say that a plain basic white is the need of summers. Because a plain white top is all you need to style all the upcoming items on my list. So, first guys, please invest in a white basic top/shirt.


2. Midi skirts: I know it's not possible to wear those tight mini skirts always because come on, we have to go to our workplaces and need to maintain some decency there. It is where midi skirts come to our rescue. For me a midi skirt is something that is below my knees. Also I prefer them loose but you know what, you have a wide variety in the type of midi skirts you want to get into as per your event requirement like a pleated skirt for a party, a flowy printed skirt for a brunch, a pencil straight skirt for your office. You name it and I have it. 



3. Culottes: Pronounced as 'Cu-lots', it is a cropped palazzo (almost one hand above your ankle) that you might know about or must have seen hung in the hangers all over your local markets. It is one of the best solutions for those who are a l'il hesitent about wearing skirts. You can style this cropped pant as I would love to call them with semi formal shirts, basic solid tops for an office formal look or with an off the shoulder, one shoulder, tube top and cute camisoles for a party look. You can also add a l'il summer vibe to them by pairing them up with a floral summery top for a brunch or breakfast date. You just got to see what the occasion is to style it right.


4. Palazzo Pants: To those who have a serious obsession of covering their skin entirely can go for palazzo pants. Go for as much flare as you can and prefer cotton, khadi and rayon fabrics over polyester, crepe and other symthetic fabrics. Reason is that these fabrics are not absorbant to sweat and end up sticking to your skin if you stay out in sun for long which will make it all the way more uncomfortable for you. So, prefer fabrics that are easy and breezy and stay comfortable because comfort is the first step to look stylish. 

 
5. Maxi dresses/ kurti dresses/ long skirts: Wondering why did I put all of them in a single category? Oh, yes I have a reason to it. The reason is that I find all of them long enough in terms of their length and they still keep you easy and open to a lot of air. The best part is you don't need to get your legs waxed over and over again and can still slay any event or just a day at your office/college with a decent looking dress. Try pairing them up with ethnic oxidised jewellery, pretty meenakari or any kid of jhumkas for a boho look. Or team them up with a denim jacket for a classy yet rugged look. 



Found nothing your type above? Oh don't you worry babe, if none of the above basic items suit you, you can always add glam to your look by wearing a different variety of kurta, kurta sets, long tunics paired up with palazzos, culottes and even with long skirts. Make sure you buy or even prefer wearing more summer friendly fabrics to maintain your cool and last, don't forget to smile. Because summers and fashion trends will come and go but this is something that will make you look all glammed up always.

So, keep smiling keep shining!

-Love
Mani

Monday, 20 May 2019

Why Game OF Thrones finale had the perfect ending?

Are you done watching Game of Thrones season finale? Don't tell me you are disappointed too? So, you also wanted John to be the king or was it Cersei's merciless death that would have given you more pleasure? I know more than half of the world is grieving over this kind of ending to the show but I can still give you enough reasons to prove that this was the best ending for the show. No theories could have given a better justice to each and every important character of the show.


I'll try to be quick and short. Hope you'll bear with me till the end.

Let's start with our favourite John. He never wanted to rule. He was a peace loving bastard, scretly a Targaryen who grew up under the mentorship of Ned Stark who again was not a fan of violence and 'Rule'. He wanted to help people and make world a better place. He united everyone to fight with the common enemy and eventually fought with the people who were selfish (The last Lannisters) again to make world a better place. Killed Dany in the end and left everyone to live with the FREE-men, The Wildlings.

Sansa was the most stupid of all but life taught her wisdom and her experiences made her strong enough that she ended up saving her people and her land. She ended up being their queen. Isn't this right in its own way? It was her wisdom that John won the Battle of Bastards. She was the real brain and hero of that war. No one else.

Arya was born a different kind. In a world where girls were taught embroidery, she wanted to learn sword fighting. She never wanted to be what everybody wanted her to become. In search of becoming what she truly was, she ended up being 'No-one'. 'We are a part of the universe, the universe lies within not outside'-She learned it at an early age and eventually left everything to explore the unexplored because she was not meant to be tamed. She was the universe, she needed to explore every bit of it.

Khaleesi grew up with a brother who treated her like a slave and wanted her to get married off to somebody who could give her brother more power. She grew up with the desire for freedom along with rebel taking roots in her heart. Her turning into mother of dragons not only gave wings to her dreams of turning the world into a better place but also made her think that dragons will help her rule the world that she wanted to free. Isn't it ironical? She wanted to rule a free world on her own terms. Well, even Drogon understood that whatever John did was for the best of the world which is why he burned the throne but not him.

Animals are not meant to be tamed, they are meant to lead a free life. Drogon left and made everyone equal with no special creature backing any ruler.

Cersei was selfish. She didn't deserve a merciless death, she was already hurting with each of her children dying one after another. Don't you think she suffered the most? Looking at all her children die in pain was the best punishment she could get. She eventually died. If not Khaleesi, Arya would've killed her. It shows, every bad vibe has an ending. It's not always brutal but it ends.

Jamie pushed Bran from the tower and ended up losing his hand. Every character got what they deserved. He ended up making wrong decisions all his life and his last decision took his life. Maybe this is was fate do to us to create lessons for the future generations.

'I drink and I think', said Tyrion, the imp and ended up surviving what the bravest and the strongest ended up losing. It shows that it isn't your size that matters (no non-veg jokes, please), it is how you plan on leading your life, how you act on things, how you interpret things, how well you use your brain that makes us win the ultimate battle of life which is life itself.

Last, the protector of the realm, Bran. He had visions. He never wanted to rule but who better than somebody who knows what's happenning everywhere and still has no interest in literally ruling! Bran had a vision of the world and for the world, who could be a better democratic ruler for the people, of the people and by the people to lead people into a new world with wisdom from the past and present.

I can write about every character that died in the previous episodes too but every death either played an inportant role in making that bad world reach its end or made the remaining ones learn a lesson. With this, we need to understand that the show had no hero but every character being a hero at his/her own time. Every character was important. No character was given a central role because not every story is a fairy tale that ends with the princess finding her prince charming or a hero ending up being the king for a happily ever after. There are a few stories that don't work on the principles of Indian soap operas that the important character will come back alive even if in the final episode (Hats off to those who believed that Ned Stark will come back in the finale, you guys rock!).

And above all, respect the author, writers and directors who made you stick to the show for 10 long years and made you buy Hotstar Premium subscription (For Indian Audience only) even if you found it useless (it has some great shows though!). They were cool enough to understand how to give justice to every character, you should be that too.


PS: With this, I also want to make a special mention. The last season could have been planned in a more elaborated manner to make people digest the madness Khaleesi's soul nurtured due to the sudden power that she got (with hardwork but without proper wisdom).
Two more episodes in between with focus on Dany turning into a mad queen, not understanding that it's not fear that people want, it's freedom that the world needed to be a better place would have made the viewers a bit more satisfied. Kudos to the people writing undoubtedly beautiful theories. Ekta Kapoor should hire you all for her upcoming season of Kyuki Saas Bhi Kabhi Bahu thi. #NooffencetoEktaMam


Tuesday, 19 February 2019

Am I Alive?

16th June 2013

Dear Kanta,

We had a peaceful time at Kedarnath as well but the weather here is not that great. The locals said that it might rain today. We’ll be leaving in an hour or more.

I will write all the details of this journey once I’ll reach home. Till then, miss me. I miss you.

Bubye!



***



Agarwal wasn’t well enough to travel alone in that deteriorating weather so I decided to take him on the horse ride rather than coming down walking with Birju and Mastaan. I wish I knew how adversely that decision will cost me.

In order to help Agarwal consult a doctor before finally taking our taxi back home, we departed an hour before Birju and Mastaan. I think that was the decision that reversed my destiny.

It took minutes to convert the lovely cloudy sky into a horrific stormy one. I felt a sense of shiver going down my spine as soon as I had a look at the fearing sky. I remember calling Kul to tell him that there was something wrong with the weather and I might not be able to contact him or anyone in the family due to signal failure.

What instigated as strong winds and drizzles of rain transformed into the worst storm and I saw it all happening in front of my eyes. It all seemed like a worst nightmare, but I could feel all that happening with me.

The wind was no longer blowing; it started screaming and together with it started the screaming of everyone witnessing it. The trees no longer swayed but instead were creaking, bending and uprooting from theirr oiginal positions and then it started raining heavily. Even shelters didn’t seem safe as the weather turned worse with each passing second. There was nothing that any of us could do as the storm was teared apart everything that took decades to get developed. Communication, lightning and strength, it all broke down and I could see the rivers alongside swelling to give rise to a more threatening consequence.

I was almost out of my senses and didn’t realize that I was no longer with Agarwal. I was not in a condition to think of him as I was losing support of my own mind. In the lap of god, each and every human present there was asking for his mercy and strength to face it.

I was surrounded with darkness, a deep sense of fear and then it all started drifting apart. Suddenly all what I felt was lightness. Yes, I started feeling very light, I no longer felt fearful, nor that darkness frightened me anymore. Besides, I started feeling a strange sense of contentment which was long missing from my life. Rising above those haunted memories, I was no longer able to listen to the shrieks of those around me.

It was strange. A few minutes back, I was shivering with fear, fear of losing thousands of those around me and fear of losing my own self but then, it all went away, I was feeling satisfied and relieved and fearless.

And then, I could see my family in front of my eyes. I felt as if I reached home. Though I wanted to enquire about the three of them but my body wanted to rest which was why I decided to ask about them after I regain my senses and strength.

I was about to sleep when I felt like I was surrounded with extreme bright lightning. The light was slowly engulfing me within and that was when I asked my own self, "Am I alive?". Steadily, I realized departing away from my own body. I could feel rising above realizing the ultimate truth that I died.



***




I not only died that day but my life also became a mystery for my family. They might still be confused of my whereabouts of whether I am alive or not, of whether I died because of the rainfall or my panic attacks killed me way before the monstrous river could. I don't know what happened with Agarwal, Mastaan and Birju but I know I am no more. I think my wish of meeting Kanta was fulfilled much before my expectations. 

"After spending two years of my life without you, I hope spending my life after death right next to you here on the front wall of our bedroom", said I to her photoframe from my photoframe on the left.


***


PS: This is an imaginary depiction of my Daddu's true story. We lost him in the Kedarnath tragedy that took place on June  16th, 2013. He was very fond of telling stories and even ended up giving us one more story with his mysterious death. ♥ 

Sunday, 27 January 2019

Hold yourself back!

Have you ever had one of those wierd kinda moments where you'd just be driving by yourself, or like even sitting at the same spot for hours where you feel like everything is wrong and you're all silent because you don't know if anything at all could be done to come out of that sinking feeling. 



But then you have a life that you have to continue living without letting anybody having any hint of what you're going through. You've to continue your day normally and act like you forgot how you felt but inside you didn't. 

Do you wonder if that silence is trying to tell you something? What if it's saying that silence and numbness are never ending. That nobody but you yourself could help you coming out of it. That if not for the joyous moments you have to go back to life for the creepiness and gloominess it holds for you. That you have to go back to singing songs again maybe the sad ones this time. That you have to roam around places, some new ones this time. That you have to click pictures of the bizzarre soul you are left with. 

Maybe, then you will start to miss the places you've been once at, not because of the people you went there with but because of somebody who you used to be when you were there. That might help you to come back. That might narrow down the silence and bring back the sound of the singing sparrow to your life. That might help.

Saturday, 27 October 2018

Find a Travel Buddy with XOXO



Have you always wanted to travel solo but were kinda worried about how will the people out there are gonna be and how will the locals there end up to be? 

OR are you a girl who's had a lot of trips with friends and family but still can't gather the courage to go solo? 

OR are you a parent who's cool enough to help your son/daughter find a travel buddy who'll end up teaching your kid how to travel solo. 

OR, do you just daydream about traveling solo one day, some day? 

If you answered YES to any of the questions above, this post is for you. 



Hello world, 


23rd October 2017, somebody told her, "See, stepping out of your home, out of your comfort zone is good. You should do it more often now". This changed her life. It was that day and today, a girl who was too afraid and uncomfortable about people outside her comfort zone has finally started to travel. I am that girl.


I took 24 years of my life to take this step, you shouldn't (Wink) especially in this world where if not your friends, if not your family, you could actually have a travel buddy. Wondering who this buddy is going to be? 

Let me introduce you with a one of its kind concept of travel dating. No, you are not forced to date somebody. No, it isn't a replica of Tinder. 

Meet, Xoxo Tours, a dating app for travellers. This basically is a combination of Travel Dating and Social Networking designed for travellers, travel enthusiasts, wannabe travellers or solo travellers to connect with locals or other travellers to date, meet or roam together while on a trip. People can connect and chat to decide to meet up/date & go on a trip. 




OR, you can just chuck off the meet-up based on your travel experience (This is especially for the female travellers). So, relax, let's travel girls

It is a free Indian dating site/app where you can actually find a like-minded travel mate and explore a whole new world with them together. Who knows, you might end up finding your soul mate on signing up at this website. 

If not, you might end up with a bag full of travel friends that you keep meeting on your trips till you gain the passion and confidence of travelling solo. 


Pros of the website


- It's free of cost. 

-‎ Easy to use, allow you the flexibility of selecting your language. 

-‎ Saves you from asking everybody on other dating websites whether they like travelling or not. 

- It's you who decide who you want to travel with. 

-‎ You can chuck off a conversation if you feel unsafe. Do not want another girl posting #Metoo. #Respectwomen 


Cons: Apart from some fraud humans, I don't think there're any. OR let's just try this first and then come up with some (if any). I am sure there aren't any. 




Dear Men,
In a world full of women crying about #Metoo, I hope some of you are decent enough who would be true and genuine to the women who look up to you for nothing but respect. 

Dear Women,
It would be great if we behave likewise and respect men as well and if not anything else, be smart and trust your gut more than the one on the other side of the screen. 

Dear humans, 
Irrespective of your genders, let's try to be kind on this platform and take India towards a time where fear and safety won't be the glitches in one's solo travel plans. 


Happy travel, happy dating.

-Lots of Love 
Mani