How can such a successful, intellectual, intelligent man commit suicide?
Suicide is NOT the answer…..
You must have read all these statements quite frequently in the past few days since we all heard about the sad demise cum suicide of the very popular, intelligent, self-made, intellectual, Sushant Singh Rajpoot. A lot of us talked about ‘How important it is to talk about mental health in India’, ‘How important it is to talk and share your worries with your loved ones’, ‘How non-important our professional titles are in Life in general’. Didn’t we?
Well, now I have a few questions to ask-
How many of you actually talk to your friends when they show depressive symptoms?
How many of you do you even know what the symptoms of depression are?
You said it quite easily on a Facebook status ‘reach out to me before thinking about suicide, I would love to hear your story’ but were you even listening when people in your life were actually telling you about something that might have taken their life?
‘We’re above our professional titles’- oh really! Would you like to marry off your daughter to an extremely well behaving, sincere, respectful boy if he’s earning half of what your daughter is? Would you? I can bet 90% of the parents out there won’t do that.
OR How many times have you chosen to go to the park with your kid instead of completing that deadline ‘because we’re much above our professions, right’?
‘But he was successful and he had a lot of money’ – They say it’s lonely at the top. Have you ever wondered that success is considered as a synonym for loneliness? Have you ever given it a though for even a microsecond?
‘He could’ve changed his profession if the industry did not support him, he was pretty intelligent. But suicide was the worst choice of all’- Yes, he was an IITian, he could’ve changed his profession, but why don’t you change your profession? He was at least good at what he was doing, you suck at your job. Yes, I’m talking to you.
We say a lot of things, we abuse a lot of juniors too, we too comment on the professionalism of our subordinates without thinking what they must be going through professionally or personally. And we, hence, are no one to comment on his decision of taking his own life. I don’t even want to imagine the destruction in thoughts he must be facing while he planned such a big step.
But all I would say is- we need to stop making judgements, stops passing statements without even following certain things in our own life. We all understand that it’s time to make a few changes in Life. We’re all pretty smart. Let’s be wise. Let’s lend a helping hand to an executive at work who’s facing issues with his targets, let’s hear out to people when they reach out to you, let’s not ignore the texts we receive because you will never know to what/who you’d blame if any such thing happen to somebody you’ve an unread text from.
Let’s stop teaching out kids to say ‘I’m fine’ when somebody asks ‘How’re you?’. Let’s teach them to share exactly how they feel, exactly how they’re rather than just saying ‘fine’ because Sushant would’ve replied the same a night before he took this step if a friend would’ve asked- How’re you?
I would not ask any one of you to reach out to me in case of help. You need to learn to talk to people in case you need help. We’ll not ask everyone we meet ‘how they truly are’, let’s create a loving vibe that people call you on your own to tell you how they are.
Spread love and happiness, share how you feel, cry out loud if you think that makes life easy for you because life is too short to say ‘I’m fine’.
-Love
Mani
#excerptsfrommydiary
How many of you actually talk to your friends when they show depressive symptoms?
How many of you do you even know what the symptoms of depression are?
You said it quite easily on a Facebook status ‘reach out to me before thinking about suicide, I would love to hear your story’ but were you even listening when people in your life were actually telling you about something that might have taken their life?
‘We’re above our professional titles’- oh really! Would you like to marry off your daughter to an extremely well behaving, sincere, respectful boy if he’s earning half of what your daughter is? Would you? I can bet 90% of the parents out there won’t do that.
OR How many times have you chosen to go to the park with your kid instead of completing that deadline ‘because we’re much above our professions, right’?
‘But he was successful and he had a lot of money’ – They say it’s lonely at the top. Have you ever wondered that success is considered as a synonym for loneliness? Have you ever given it a though for even a microsecond?
‘He could’ve changed his profession if the industry did not support him, he was pretty intelligent. But suicide was the worst choice of all’- Yes, he was an IITian, he could’ve changed his profession, but why don’t you change your profession? He was at least good at what he was doing, you suck at your job. Yes, I’m talking to you.
We say a lot of things, we abuse a lot of juniors too, we too comment on the professionalism of our subordinates without thinking what they must be going through professionally or personally. And we, hence, are no one to comment on his decision of taking his own life. I don’t even want to imagine the destruction in thoughts he must be facing while he planned such a big step.
But all I would say is- we need to stop making judgements, stops passing statements without even following certain things in our own life. We all understand that it’s time to make a few changes in Life. We’re all pretty smart. Let’s be wise. Let’s lend a helping hand to an executive at work who’s facing issues with his targets, let’s hear out to people when they reach out to you, let’s not ignore the texts we receive because you will never know to what/who you’d blame if any such thing happen to somebody you’ve an unread text from.
Let’s stop teaching out kids to say ‘I’m fine’ when somebody asks ‘How’re you?’. Let’s teach them to share exactly how they feel, exactly how they’re rather than just saying ‘fine’ because Sushant would’ve replied the same a night before he took this step if a friend would’ve asked- How’re you?
I would not ask any one of you to reach out to me in case of help. You need to learn to talk to people in case you need help. We’ll not ask everyone we meet ‘how they truly are’, let’s create a loving vibe that people call you on your own to tell you how they are.
Spread love and happiness, share how you feel, cry out loud if you think that makes life easy for you because life is too short to say ‘I’m fine’.
-Love
Mani
#excerptsfrommydiary
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